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Having enough self-confidence is something a lot of people struggle with at one point in their lives or the other.
Surprisingly, it’s also a very important factor that determines how we live, how we react to things, and eventually what we achieve in life.
For some people, the journey to boost their self-confidence may sometimes seem like an uncomfortable and maybe even a difficult thing. But I assure you, it certainly doesn’t have to be that way.
If you’re looking to gain more confidence in your everyday life, as well as in your relation with people and things around you, then I’ve got the perfect challenge for you.
This simple 30-day challenge contains a series of tasks that will help you boost your confidence, and take better control of your life.
30 simple tasks you can perform each day, which will definitely have a positive and uplifting effect on your self-perception, as well as your self-esteem.
Let’s get right into it.
Why Self-Confidence Is Important
When it comes to understanding things like self-esteem, I like to use the analogy of a car.
So think of a very nice car. It could have the best looks, as well as the best specs and components and so on. But without any fuel or gas, that wonderful car isn’t going to go anywhere.
Same thing goes for humans. Just like the car, our talents, skills, hard work, as well as your physical attributes all make up the body, or components of the car.
Our confidence, and attitude on the other hand, is the fuel, or gas required to take this wonderful vehicle places.
Having enough self-confidence not only gives you the courage to put yourself out there, but it also gives you the courage to chase after the things you want in life.
How To Boost Self-Confidence
If you find yourself on the low end of the confidence scale, you don’t need to worry. There are several things you can do to tip that scale a lot higher.
This 30-day confidence challenge focuses on 30 interesting tasks, which when carried out, will help you develop a more positive self-image, and begin to see yourself, and act like the awesome person you really are.
30 Day Confidence Challenge
1) Write Down Some Of Your Biggest Achievements
Sometimes, we get so caught up in our current situations, we tend to forget what we’ve been through, and the situations we’ve conquered in the past.
Recalling some of the outstanding things you’ve done in the past can serve as a valid reminder to just how capable you are, which will in turn lead to a healthier and better sense of self.
2) Try Doing Something New
We humans sometimes have a sort of fear of the unknown. This is why we tend to stick to things we’re already used to, rather than venturing out to experience other things.
Trying new things not only helps you get over that fear, but it can also help you discover more about yourself. You’ll know more about your likes and dislikes, and even possibly discover new passions too.
3) Recite Positive Affirmations
Never underestimate the power your words have. When you say something repeatedly, it gets ingrained into your subconscious, and this later manifests itself in your how you think, as well as your habits.
Reciting positive affirmations about yourself and about your life trains your mind to think that way, which can in turn lead to you acting that way.
Here are some wonderful positive affirmations to get you started
If you’re looking to boost your self-esteem, a regular sweat sesh might just be the perfect thing to help you out.
For starters, we all know the positive effect exercise has on our physical appearance. It can help you get in a better shape, which can make you more confident about your body.
In addition to that, exercise also comes with mental benefits. A good sweat sesh can help relieve stress, reduce anxiety, improve mood, and more. All of which can positively influence your sense of self.
5) Do Something Nice For Yourself
News flash. You are worthy, and you deserve nice things. And one great way to show that, is by doing nice things for yourself. When you begin to treat yourself like someone that matters, you will similarly begin to act that way too.
It could be a fun evening out, a pedicure, a nice yummy treat, or even just a gift. Treat yourself like you matter, because you do.
6) Accept Your Flaws
If there’s anything that modern society seems to promote, it’s the idea of a perfect life. It’s even more apparent on social media platforms, where everyone seems like they’re straight out of a Disney movie, and that they’ve got their entire life together.
Unfortunately, reality isn’t like that. Not even remotely. Perfection is something we all like to strive towards, but it’s important to recognize that we all have flaws. And more important than that, is that it is perfectly ok to have flaws.
Flaws are exactly what makes us human. So don’t be afraid to embrace your flaws. They are what make you, you. Even the people you think are perfect also have flaws of their own.
So embrace yours. Own it, and see yourself as more than your flaws. See yourself as you. A unique human being.
7) Set Little Tasks And Complete Them
There’s no denying that our achievements play a role in our level of confidence and self-esteem. But also when it comes to achievements, you don’t necessarily need to start at the top.
Starting by setting simple tasks and completing them, can work to build up your confidence for even greater tasks. It could be something as simple as mowing the lawn, or starting the intro for that book or paper you’ve been wanting to do.
Completing these smaller tasks will make you more confident in your ability to achieve bigger things.
8) Make A List Of Things You’re Good At
As humans, we all have something we’re good at, whether we realize it or not. It doesn’t even have to be something huge.
It could be something simple, like cooking, dancing, speaking a second language, or even something “silly”, like that cool tongue rolling thing which I unfortunately can’t do 🙁
No matter what it is, remembering these special talents can serve as a reminder to how unique and awesome we are.
9) Do Something Nice For Someone
Sometimes, all you need to do, to feel good, is to make someone else feel good. Doing something nice for someone can help that person feel special, which will in turn make you feel good for making someone feel that way.
Something as simple as holding the door for someone, or helping them cross the street can go a long way. You might just be the highlight of their day. And in my opinion, that makes you a star.
10) Do Something You’re Scared Of
The only way to overcome our fear of something, is by engaging with that fear. We all have something we’re scared of doing. It could be talking to strangers, or presenting in front of people, or something like heights.
By engaging with your fears, you become one step closer to overcoming them for good. And as you overcome your fears, you’ll begin to believe in yourself a lot more.
11) Don’t Fear Failure
It is important to note that facing your fear doesn’t have to require succeeding at first. For example, if you’re shy when it comes to presenting or talking to people, facing that fear doesn’t mean you’ll become the master of speech on first try.
But that’s the point. That it’s okay to fail. In just about everything meaningful we try, there’s a chance we’ll suck at it, or fail. And that’s okay.
Failure is a normal part of life. Sure it sucks to be in that position. But it’s important to remember that it’s completely normal. Rather than being scared of failure, we can actually put ourselves out there and learn from our mistakes.
That’s how we grow and improve as humans. Through trials and error, and learning from those episodes of failure. So don’t fear it. Rather, treat it as a tool, and learn from it.
12) Say “No” When You Have To
“No” is one of the simplest words to utter, considering it’s just one syllable. But for some people, saying No, especially to things that they aren’t comfortable with, is a difficulty.
Don’t get me wrong. It’s ok to consider people’s situations, as well as make compromises for them. But when it comes at a disadvantage to you, or makes you feel uncomfortable, then it’s ok to say “No”.
Saying “No” doesn’t mean you don’t care, or that you’re a bad person. It just means that you value yourself as an individual, and that you’re making a choice that reflects your values, as well as your wellbeing.
13) Sharpen Your Existing Skills
We feel much more confident in ourselves when we know we can do something, and that we can do it well. Our skills, whatever they may be, are of great importance in today’s world.
If you have a skill, sharpening it, and becoming better at it gives you a boost of confidence, because you know when a problem arises in that area, you are more than capable of solving it. And that’s a pretty darn good feeling.
14) Compliment Yourself
When last did you look in the mirror and tell yourself how awesome you are? The fact that you’ve made it this far, is truly something that’s worthy of praise.
Not everyone can handle the situations you’ve through and come out in one piece. So take pride in that, and remind yourself how awesome you are, every single day.
15) Pick Up A Productive Hobby
One of the best things you can do for yourself and your self-esteem, is picking up a hobby. Not just any activity, but one that actually improves your well-being, and is also fun.
A productive and exciting hobby not only serves as a great use of your free time, but it actually adds more value to your life in the process, making you feel much better about yourself.
Dancing for example can keep you in shape, while helping you to be comfortable in your own body, and at the same time, equipping you with some killer moves to show off at your next party. A productive hobby is always a win-win scenario.
16) Get Rid Of Negative Thoughts
Just as positive thoughts can make you feel better about yourself and boost your confidence, negative thoughts can conversely make you feel bad about yourself and lower your self-esteem.
If you’re someone who thinks a lot of negative things about yourself, those things will only ingrain themselves in your subconscious and manifest in your attitude.
Getting rid of these unnecessary negative thoughts will clear your mind, and make it a much healthier place for your growth and development as a person.
17) Stand/Sit Up Straight
Believe it or not, your posture can have an effect on your self-confidence. A proper and upright position when standing, walking or sitting has shown to be a sign of confidence.
In addition to that, your posture can actually affect how you respond to situations. This study showed that for exercises perceived as difficult, people who sat up straight reported experiencing less difficulties than people in a slouched position.
This goes to show that your posture may actually affect your mental state, and can determine how you view problems, as well as your ability to solve them.
18) Dress Nicely
If you want to be more confident, you’ve got to start by looking confident. After all, your physical appearance is one of the first things people notice about you.
Without a doubt, wearing good and comfortable clothes makes us feel more confident. If you’re looking to boost your self-esteem, your wardrobe is probably a good place to start.
Now don’t get me wrong. When I say “dress nicely”, I’m not implying you need to get the latest Louis bags and fancy shoes, gold pendants or overtly expensive clothes. Absolutely not.
What I mean is, you should pay attention to what you wear, and focus on getting clothes that fit you properly, and make you feel comfortable. Cheap clothes can do that just as well, if not better than expensive ones.
19) Learn Something New
Knowledge is indeed a powerful thing. And if there’s one thing we never truly stop in life, is learning. Learning something new is a great way to expand your knowledge about different aspects of the world.
In addition to this, the act of learning can also have positive effects on your brain, and help you develop a better and healthier mind.
Learning can come in the form of a craft, like knitting to things like painting, programming, or even just the simple act of acquiring more knowledge, like learning a new subject.
Either ways, expanding the borders of your knowledge is sure to lead to a better and more capable you, which will eventually have a positive effect on your self-esteem.
20) Do Something You’ve Been Putting Off
Procrastination is one thing a lot of people have to deal with today, including yours truly. But there’s no denying the negative effect it can have on our minds.
Putting things off unnecessarily puts us in a state of tension or anxiety, knowing we have important things that need to be completed, while somehow still doing nothing about it.
It leaves an unnecessary burden on your mind. When you do something you’ve been putting off, you can almost literally feel the burden lifted.
Plus, the realization that you’ve completed successfully did something which was meant to be done will leave you feeling better about yourself, and more at ease.
21) Read/Listen to something inspiring
Sometimes, we feel as though the odds are against us, and we don’t stand a chance in this thing called life. But all we need to remember is that there were people just like us, who not only has these doubts, but were also able to pull through and succeed.
These stories can serve as a source of inspiration to us, and give us the courage to hold our head high as we go through life. Books, podcasts, seminars, talks, and so on can serve as a good source of inspiration.
Try to make it a habit to incorporate these positively inspiring elements into your routine.
Sometimes, the sea of emotions and thoughts in our head can lead to mental clutter, and leave us feeling less of ourselves. Luckily, there’s a constructive way to handle this and let it all out.
Journaling can serve as an excellent way for us to express how we feel inside, and take a closer look at not only how, but why these feelings affects us the way they do.
Keeping a journal can help you express your emotions, both positive and negative in a healthy way, and will leave you feeling much better afterwards.
23) Follow good personal hygiene
Looking good and feeling good go hand in hand. And this extends far beyond what we wear. How we take care of ourselves, plays an important role in how we view ourselves.
We all know how great it feels to walk out the house with a nice hairdo, cool nails, a fresh breath, and a perfume that makes us smell like a million bucks. It’s a darn good feeling.
If you want to boost your self-confidence, taking good care of your body, and maintaining good personal hygiene is a great place to start.
24) Get comfortable with yourself
There are over 7 billion people on this floating blue rock, but there’s only one you. And that, my friend, is your superpower. So own it and embrace your eccentricity.
Getting comfortable with yourself doesn’t necessarily mean you stop striving to be better. It only means that you get comfortable with being you, or being a better version of yourself, rather than trying to be someone or something else you’re not.
25) Engage in mindful meditation
Meditation can also serve as an important tool to help us calm the raging sea of thoughts in our mind, and deal with them in a healthy way.
By engaging in guided meditation, you can clear your mind of the unnecessary clutter, and focus on the things that are truly important, and make you feel better as person.
Plus, meditation can also help you take note of several thought patters, which may be affecting your mood and sense of self, and help you possibly avoid them in the future.
26) Join a community/Volunteer
Humans are wired to be social creatures. And if you’re looking to boost your confidence and self-esteem, joining a good community is another amazing way to do so.
By becoming part of a helpful community, you’ll not only boost your social skills and intelligence, but you’ll also be able to contribute something positive to society in return.
27) Avoid going too hard on yourself
Don’t get me wrong. Setting high goals and reaching for the stars is a good thing. But sometimes, we forget we are human, and end up setting the bar way too high.
When this happens, and we’re unable to meet our own expectations, we may end up thinking less of ourselves. But it’s important to remember at the end of the day, that we’re just human.
Sometimes, things work out, sometimes, we make (very) silly mistakes, and other times, circumstances change and things don’t go our way. It doesn’t make us any less of a person. It just means we’re human. So don’t go too hard on yourself. Laugh a little.
28) Let go of the past
Sometimes, the things that drag us down aren’t the circumstances of the present, but the emotional baggage of the past. Holding on to things that we can’t change, and have already happened, never leads to anything positive.
It only ruins our experience of the present, and holds us back from achieving the things we’re meant to achieve. The past is the past for a reason. Whatever happened then, let it go, and don’t let it weight you down.
Rather, focus on making the best use of the present, to create a much better future you’ll be proud of.
29) Plan ahead
You must’ve probably heard the saying that those who fail to plan, plan to fail. That’s 100% true. The best way to face anything in life, is with a plan.
Not only does it give you a better sense of control and responsibility, but it also allows you to prepare for the unexpected and make adjustments accordingly.
30) Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
Comparing yourself to others is never a productive thing to do. Because no matter where you are in life, you’ll always find someone doing better than you. Made a million dollars this month? Congratulations. Someone else made 10 million.
The problem with comparing yourself to others, is that it paints a very inaccurate picture of people’s lives, and ignores the fact that each and every one of us are faced with very different circumstances.
Rather than comparing yourself to others, try comparing yourself to who you were in the past. It’s more productive, since no one knows you as good as you, and it’s a more accurate depiction of progress.